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Juicy Fruit Sermon Series // Part 8

Fruit of the Spirit // Gentleness

Galatians 5:22-23 NLT
But the Holy Spirit produces this kind of fruit in our lives: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness…”


1. I’m kind of blown away by the picture God is developing before our eyes of the Christ-follower. It seems peculiar to me that “gentleness” is part of the picture. There’s love and joy and peace and patience, and there’s kindness and there’s goodness and faithfulness. Then next there’s self-control, or discipline. But here, gentleness.

Oh, the great wisdom and knowledge and foresight of God. Gentleness breaks down barriers. Gentleness makes us likeable. And if we as Christians aren’t “likeable” then we will never win our family or influence around us.

2. Acts 1:8 says that you and I will receive power after the Holy Spirit comes upon us and we will be His witnesses. And how will we ever have an opportunity to witness of His amazing grace if no one will listen? We earn the right to be heard when we become like-able enough that others want to hear what we have to say.

3. And to all of us macho men here today – to which I am one – relax. I’m not teaching you that you have to be weak and wimpy. Big, big difference here.

So what is it like to be gentle? In a nutshell, here is what the Bible means by the fruit of gentleness.

Gentleness is controlling your reactions to people. It is choosing your own response to people rather than simply reacting to them. 

4. And in ourselves we all struggle at times, but the good news is the Holy Spirit produces this kind of fruit in us as we daily submit to His will. You don’t have to go it alone.

So what? I ask myself with every message. What’s the big deal? What’s the point?

What now? What’s next? How do I act on the word? How do I do what God says?

This has become so strong in my life. I don’t want to just preach a sermon and work up a response. I want to know that when you and I leave here, we’ve got something to do, to work on, and that will last.

So here’s the practical application of choosing your response to people instead of simply reacting to them.

1. Be understanding, not demanding.

A. Philippians 2:4 NLT
“Don’t look out only for your own interests, but take an interest in others, too.”

B. It becomes easier over time to become more demanding.

And nowadays there seems to be a strong influence of entitlement. I’ve earned it and I deserve it.

C. It is prevalent at work from those who are demanding. It’s one thing to be the boss, it’s another thing to be the tyrant.

D. The same is true at home. It absolutely costs nothing to be in control of your responses and it absolutely costs you everything in the end if you aren’t in control.

E. There’s no virtue in being hard on your spouse or on your children. There’s no virtue in demeaning the people who work for you or the server at the restaurant or the clerk at the store.

But if we allow Him, the Holy Spirit produces in us control over our reactions.

2. Be gracious, not judgmental.

A. Galatians 6:1 NLT
Dear brothers and sisters, if another believer is overcome by some sin, you who are godly should gently and humbly help that person back onto the right path. And be careful not to fall into the same temptation yourself.

 B. Paul is teaching us to be gentle with those who struggle.

Romans 14:1 NLT 
Accept other believers who are weak in faith, and don’t argue with them about what they think is right or wrong.”

 C. Look, people mess up all the time. And those of us who have worked through some struggles and issues tend to forget how difficult it is to overcome some of our weaknesses.

Being hard and harsh is not being holy. Being judgmental and condescending is not going to propel anyone forward. But being gracious will. Being compassionate will.

D. By the way, in case you’re wondering, I don’t mean condoning sin. I don’t mean winking at sin as though it doesn’t matter. It matters to God and it ought to matter to us.

But we will never win our kids or our neighbors or our city if we judge and condemn and treat them with contempt.

Be gracious – not judgmental.

E. How do you handle someone who disagrees with you? Ah, this is one way the Holy Spirit develops gentleness in us. He brings us into contact with people who don’t see everything the way we see everything.

F. James 3:16-17 NLT
For wherever there is jealousy and selfish ambition, there you will find disorder and evil of every kind.17 But the wisdom from above is first of all pure. It is also peace loving, gentle at all times, and willing to yield to others. It is full of mercy and the fruit of good deeds. It shows no favoritism and is always sincere.

G. George Patton said we should never fight a battle when you won’t gain anything by winning.

Here’s a good example. Have you ever argued over a date? You’re out with others and your wife is telling a story and she says it was 2007 that we did this and so. And you say, “No honey, it wasn’t 2007. Remember? It was 2008.”

“No it wasn’t. I remember it was 2007.”

And the people who are sitting there do not know the difference it makes and could care less about when it was.

Never fight a battle in which you won’t win anything.

Be gracious.

3. Be respectful.

A. I Peter 3:15-16 NLT
Instead, you must worship Christ as Lord of your life. And if someone asks about your hope as a believer, always be ready to explain it. 16 But do this in a gentle and respectful way.  Keep your conscience clear. Then if people speak against you, they will be ashamed when they see what a good life you live because you belong to Christ.

B. I really hate to admit this. But I truly believe through the years, the church has hindered the cause of Christ by our response and reaction to those who aren’t believers.

C. When you and I share Jesus with someone, respect them, don’t reject them.

For too long, we shared the Gospel with a sense of superiority.

You know, “You need what I have because you are so bad.”

D. Again, respect unbelievers, don’t put them down. Respecting them means accepting them. That doesn’t mean you approve of their lifestyle. There is a big difference between acceptance and approval.

I can accept you as a person of worth and value without approving of everything you do.

Let me take you to the person who demonstrated this fruit in every situation… Who, if there ever was one who could have demanded and commanded and condemned and judged, it was this man.

In John 8, we have the story of Jesus and the woman caught committing adultery.

  • The scene
  • His response
  • What He could have but didn’t do and say
  • What He did do and say
  • And how she must have felt.

It doesn’t say what she did afterwards. The Bible doesn’t follow her life and give us updates.

I don’t know if she changed. But I promise you this, she was never the same because this man who could have consented and she’d be dead, yet, He gave her the fruit of gentleness.

Worship Set

Even So Come

- Tommee Profitt

Verse 1

All of creation
All of the earth
Make straight a highway
A path for the Lord
Jesus is coming soon

Call back the sinner
Wake up the saint
Let every nation shout of Your fame
Jesus is coming soon


Like a bride waiting for her groom
We'll be at Church ready for You
Every heart longing for our King
We sing "even so come"
Lord Jesus, come
Even so come
Lord Jesus, come

Misc 1 (Bridge)

There will be justice, all will be new
Your name forever, faithful and true
Jesus is coming soon


Oh, like a bride waiting for her groom
We'll be at Church ready for You
Every heart longing for our King
We sing "even so come"
Lord Jesus, come
Even so come
Lord Jesus, come

Misc 2 (Tag)

So we wait
We wait for You
God, we wait
You're coming soon

So we wait
We wait for You
God, we wait
You're coming soon

All Because Of Jesus 

- Steve Fee

Verse 1

Giver of ev'ry breath I breathe
Author of all eternity
Giver of ev'ry perfect thing
To You be the glory

Maker of heaven and of earth
No one can comprehend Your worth
King over all the universe
To You be the glory

Misc 1 (Pre-Chorus)

And I'm alive because I'm alive in You

Chorus 1

(And) it's all because of Jesus I'm alive
It's all because the blood of Jesus Christ
That covers me and raised this dead man's life
It's all because of Jesus
(I'm alive I'm alive I'm alive)

Misc 2 (Bridge)

Ev'ry sunrise sings Your praise
The universe cries out Your praise
I'm singing freedom all my days
Now that I'm alive

A God Like You 

- Kirk Franklin and William Jeffrey

Chorus 1

Everybody wanna be like You they
Want power and grace like You but
See there is no God like our God
There's no one like You

Who gave their life like You and
Who paid our price like You see
There's only one God that's our God
There's no one like You

Verse 1

Who can touch like You
Or heal us like You do
We stumble and we stray still
You always get us through

Who makes all things new
And comes to our rescue
Death hell and the grave
They could not conquer

Misc 1 (Pre-Chorus)

You became just like me
To unlock and set free
This prisoner that was deeply wounded and redeemed
The me I could not see

Verse 2

Some may worship things
But what joy do they bring
They try and hide the stains
But can they set us free

See where would we be
Without Calvary
A King upon a tree
So the whole world can see

Misc 2 (Bridge)

Healer, Father, Savior
Counselor, Friend, Provider
Was is and forever
That's why I just wanna be where You are
I'll travel life with You
No matter how far

Misc 3 (Interlude)

Hey hey hey (4X)

Misc 4 (Pre-Chorus)

(I glad that You) became just like me
To unlock and set free
This prisoner that was deeply wounded and redeemed
The me I could not see

Misc 5 (Ending)

There's no one like You
There's no one like You
There's no God like our God
There's no one like You

Forever Reign

- Reuben Morgan

Verse 1

You are good You are good
When there's nothing good in me
You are love You are love
On display for all to see

You are light You are light
When the darkness closes in
You are hope You are hope
You have covered all my sin

Verse 2

You are peace You are peace
When my fear is crippling
You are true You are true
Even in my wandering

You are joy You are joy
You're the reason that I sing
You are life You are life
In You death has lost its sting

Chorus 1

(Oh) I'm running to Your arms
I'm running to Your arms
The riches of Your love will always be enough
Nothing compares to Your embrace
Light of the world forever reign

Verse 3

You are more You are more
Than my words will ever say
You are Lord You are Lord
All creation will proclaim

You are here You are here
In Your presence I'm made whole
You are God You are God
Of all else I'm letting go

Misc 1 (Bridge)

My heart will sing no other Name
Jesus Jesus