Be Your Selfie (Part Three)

There's a story behind every picture. What we portray and show the world isn't always representative of what's going on in our real selfies. For instance, we've all been wronged at one time or another. We've all been offended. We all have experienced the pain of rejection, been ignored, shunned, or treated with silence. The real truth is, we've done the same to others.

Jesus understood the pain of rejection, was lied about, and abused more than any other. Yet He forgave those who wronged Him. "Father, forgive them, for they know not what they are doing." So how do WE pray when we've been offended and wronged?

Key Text: Matthew 18:15-17 NLT

“If another believer sins against you, go privately and point out the offense. If the other person listens and confesses it, you have won that person back. 16 But if you are unsuccessful, take one or two others with you and go back again, so that everything you say may be confirmed by two or three witnesses. 17 If the person still refuses to listen, take your case to the church. Then if he or she won’t accept the church’s decision, treat that person as a pagan or a corrupt tax collector."

It's a fact of life that we will be offended and hurt at times. We will never be treated all the time the way we think we deserve. What do we do?

1. Go.

If there is a breakdown in a relationship, no matter who caused it - YOU go. You make the first step to attempt a reconciliation.

2. Go alone.

Go alone, in private. This is between you, the other person, and God. Don't assassinate their character by telling others what a jerk you think the person has been towards you!

3. Go to reconcile the relationship.

When you go to someone who has hurt you, go with the spirit of restoring the relationship.

Say "I was wrong" instead of "I am sorry." "I was wrong" acknowledges personal responsibility and ownership of what was said or done.

4. Go now.

Don't wait to fix that broken relationship!

5. Let it go.

Sometimes you do everything right, but the other person won't reconcile. They reject your efforts.

You and I can't control other people's responses. If they aren't willing to make it right and allow the relationship to heal, then you have to let it go. Release the relationship to God and pray that someday things will change.

Letting go is easy to say but hard to do. But God gives grace! God helps us, if we are sincere with Him, to get to that place where we can say, "Father, forgive them. They just don't understand."