Facing the Fears That Ruin Relationships
Today I get to talk to you about our relationships. Particularly I'm going to talk about fears we all face in relationships.
To deal with relationships we have to go back to the originals.
A) Satan comes to Eve and he lies to her when he says, “Didn’t God say that you can’t eat from any of the trees in the garden?” Of course God hadn’t said that. He said you can only not eat from one. That’s the minimum temptation. Everything else is within limits. Do whatever you want to with it. Just one tree is off limits. To give you a choice. Because I want you to choose to love me.
Then he says, “God’s lying to you. You’re not going to die if you eat of the fruit of that tree. In fact, you’ll be as wise as God. You’ll be god!”
Every temptation comes to that basic issue. I want to be God. Satan never tempts us to be like himself. He never says, do this temptation and you’ll be like me. You’ll be evil. Nobody would do it. But Satan says do this because you know better than God. Because God is old fashioned. Because God is out of date. God doesn’t want you to be happy. You should do this because you know what will make you happy more than God. You’re a god!
... so Eve ate some of the fruit. Then she also gave some to her husband, Adam, who was with her, and he ate it. Immediately, their eyes were opened, and they suddenly felt shame at their nakedness. So they sewed fig leaves together to cover up themselves. Then they heard the Lord walking in the garden in the cool of the day, and they hid from God among the trees. But God called out to Adam, ‘Where are you?’ Adam replied, ‘I heard you coming and I was afraid because I was naked; so I hid.’ Then God asked, ‘Who told you that you were naked? Have you eaten from the tree that I commanded you not to eat from?’ Adam said, ‘You gave me this woman and she gave me the fruit, so I ate it.’ Then God said to Eve, ‘Why did you to this?’ Eve replied, ‘The serpent deceived me, and I ate it.’ ...So God said to Eve, ‘’ (Because you disobeyed me) you’ll have greater trouble in pregnancy and great pain in childbirth. And though you’ll desire your husband, he’s going to lord it over you." Then God said to Adam, "Because you also disobeyed me and sinned with your wife, the ground you work is now cursed. And though you’ll get to eat what you planted, your fields will have weeds, and thorns and thistles, and for the rest of your life you’ll have to sweat and work hard to get your food until you yourself are returned to the dirt that I used to create you.”
B) This is a fascinating story, filled with enormous amounts of spiritual truth in it. But I just want to point out the relational truths. Because in this story we see the three basic fundamental fears that pop up in every single relationship.
You can use what we’re going to look at today in your small group. You can use it in your marriage. You can use it with a boyfriend or girlfriend. You can use it with friends. You can use it at work. These three fundamental fears that started in the first relationship when sin entered are still present in your life and everybody else’s life and they damage and they destroy potential in the relationship.
Let’s get right into it.
HOW OUR FEARS RUIN RELATIONSHIPS
1. The first fear we learn is this: It’s the fear of exposure.
The fear of exposure makes me distant. Why can’t I get close to people? I’d like to be closer to my wife. I’d like to be closer to my husband. I’d like to have that intimacy, that sole passionate intimacy of partnership. Why can’t I get close to the people in my life?
My fear of exposure makes me distant.
A) Here’s the truth. There’s a lot in you that you don’t like. You don’t like it about you and because you don’t like it about you, you certainly don’t want anybody else to see it. The things that you don’t accept about you, you have a fear will not be accepted by others so you want to keep your distance.
When people get close to you, they can see you, warts and all. The closer people get the more they see your blemishes, the more they see your mistakes, your faults, your failures, your weaknesses. So we keep people at a distance because of fear of exposure that people will know what we know about ourselves. Those things you don’t like about you, you don’t want them being shared by anyone else because they might reject it.
Genesis 3: 9-10 says this, “God called Adam, ‘Why are you hiding?’ And Adam said was afraid because I was naked and so I hid.’”
B) God asked Adam two questions. First, He said, "Where are you?" and then, "Why were you hiding?" Whenever God asks you a question he already knows the answer. He wasn’t asking those questions for his benefit. He’s asking the question for Adam’s benefit because he wants Adam to own up. He wants Adam to man up. He wants Adam to be a man and accept responsibility for the fact that he had run and he was hiding.
Any transformation in any area of your life including relationships only happens when you own up to the fact that they aren’t what they ought to be. As long as you think, I’ve got a great marriage, it’s not going to get any better. I’ve got great friendships – fine. As long as you’re in denial there’s no recovery, there’s no transformation.
So it starts with you owning up and being honest to God and honest with yourself that my relationships are not what they could be. They could be a whole lot better than they are right now.
C) I want you to circle in that verse the phrase, “I was afraid and I hid.” Because they go together. Fear always causes us to hide. I wonder what you’re hiding from today, because of fear.
What are you pretending not to know? What are you pretending isn’t a problem in your marriage? What are you pretending isn’t a problem in your life? What are you pretending isn’t a problem in your relationships because you are afraid of facing the truth.
God doesn’t want you to fake it. He wants you to face it when it comes to fear. What are you pretending not to know? I was afraid and I hid.
D) Also circle the phrase, “I was naked.” What does it mean to be naked? He’s talking about more here than just physical nakedness. There’s an emotional nakedness too. To be naked means to be exposed. It means to be uncovered. It means to be vulnerable. It means to be authentic. It means you’re out in the open. It means you are unprotected. You are never more vulnerable than when you’re naked. It’s just all out there. There’s nothing to hide. When we are afraid of nakedness, afraid of vulnerability, afraid of being open, afraid of being honest, afraid of letting people see us as we really are, my fear of exposure makes me distant.
One of your deepest needs is to be loved. But one of your deepest fears is the fear of being seen for what you really are. You can live with a husband or wife for fifty years and keep secrets from them because you’re afraid that they would not accept that part of your life. Living with somebody doesn’t guarantee that they’re seeing all of you because they’re not.
I want you to notice the damage that fear does to a relationship. There are three stages and we see all three of them here in this.
Phase 1: SHAME
The first phase is shame. That’s verse 7. Once they disobeyed God, the first thing that entered their relationship was shame. When you disobey God, shame enters your relationship. It says, “They suddenly felt shame at their nakedness.”
Fear is often based in shame.
When you carry shame, you are easily embarrassed. When you carry shame, you fear embarrassment almost more than anything else. And you will do almost anything in your life to avoid embarrassment. That is the symptom that you’re carrying unresolved shame in your life.
Shame makes me more self-conscious. Shame makes me more nervous. Shame makes me fearful of being humiliated. I’m going to avoid that at all costs. Shame means I’m easily mortified. Because if you have any of those things in your life it means there’s some shame you haven’t given to God and let him take away in your life.
Phase 2: COVER UP
The cover up. What happens is when we feel ashamed, we try to conceal who we really are – our true selves.
Verse 7b says “So they sewed fig leaves together to cover up themselves.”
A) Today we all have much more sophisticated ways of covering up who we really are. We don’t have to use fig leaves any more but we do it all the time.
I wonder what ways you use to cover up your fears, your insecurities. What ways do you cover them up?
Some people use humor. They’re the class clown but they don’t let anybody get close to them.
Maybe you try to cover up your insecurities by presenting an image that you’re all put together. You’ve got the right clothes, you’ve got the right accessories, you’ve got the right hair, you drive the right car, you say the right things, you use the right words.
You give this image that you’re all put together but you’re not. You don’t have it all together. You don’t have it all together in any sense of the word. But you try to present this image. Why? Out of fear.
Today a lot of people hide behind an online image. If you read their Facebook, their life is perfect. And if you read their Instagram they have nothing but fun and everybody wants to date them! They are so cool. Stop pretending you’ve got a perfect life on social media! You’re just faking it and it’s revealing fears in your life.
Phase 3: DISTANCE FROM GOD
Verse 8, “Then they hid from God among the trees.”
They hid from God among the trees. This causes us now not only to be disconnected from other people and that’s why we have relationship problem with others. But we’re disconnected from God and that’s why we have a relationship problem with God. We not only start fearing other people but we start fearing God out of shame. God doesn’t expect you to be perfect but he does expect you to be honest. So the first fear is this fear of being exposed. And that causes me to be distant.
The second fear we see in Adam and Eve is the fear of disapproval.
2. MY FEAR OF DISAPPROVAL MAKES ME DEFENSIVE.
Now we move from simply hiding and running and covering up to now being defensive and we start attacking other people back. We’re not just hiding; we’re now hurling. We’re not just excusing ourselves; we’re accusing others.
A). In this stage now, when I have this fear of disapproval, I start pointing fingers at everybody else. And you hear people say, But you did that. You did this but you did that.
That’s moving from hiding to hurling. From excusing to accusing.
The more critical a person is the more you know they fear disapproval. I’ll say that again:
The more critical, the more "perfectionistic", the more they attack somebody else – they’re always putting somebody else down – the more you know that person fears disapproval.
Because that’s the way it shows up. The more I fear disapproval in my life the more I’m going to point at other people and all of what they’re doing wrong.
So you see these commentators and preachers and other people always pointing out the wrongs of everybody else. They are afraid of being disapproved of themselves. It’s coming out of their judgmentalism.
B) We see this in verse 12 “God asked, ‘Did you eat what I told you not to eat?’ Adam said, ‘You gave me this woman and she gave me the fruit, so I ate it.’”
He’s not even blaming his wife but he’s blaming God. You gave me this woman. If you hadn’t made this woman, you and me God, we’d be like this. It’s all my wife’s fault. I’d really be close to you, God, if it weren’t for that wife, that woman. She seduced me. She got me all messed up.
So Adam’s blaming not only Eve, he’s blaming God for his choice. He’s passing the responsibility. You’ve heard me say many times you spell blame "b lame". And Adam is being lame here.
C) Sorry ladies, but Eve wasn’t any more willing to accept responsibility. She doesn’t show up either. She doesn’t woman up to this. Genesis 13 “Eve said, ‘The serpent deceived me, and I ate it.’” So Adam blames his wife and Eve blames the snake. Great. My fear of disapproval makes me defensive.
This happens in your marriage and your relationships all the time. If anybody says anything to you, your wife says something to you that you feel has a hint of disapproval, you immediately get defensive. And you either explain it or you attack back or you accuse or you excuse or you say something catty or whatever.
My fear of exposure makes me distant and my fear of disapproval makes me defensive.
But there’s a third fear that I see in Adam and Eve. It’s the fear of losing control.
3. MY FEAR OF LOSING CONTROL MAKES ME DEMANDING.
The result of Adam and Eve’s sin is they lost control. They lost control of everything. They lost control of their future. They lost control of their destiny. They got kicked out of paradise. Now they’re feeling totally out of control because they were. They weren’t controlling anything at this point. In this situation – my fear of losing control makes me demanding.
A) Let me say it this way: The more out of control you feel the more controlling you become. I start bossing everybody around. I start making demands. I start protecting myself. I start defending, demanding, demeaning. I start dominating. The more insecure you are the greater you have the need to get your way.
B) If you’re a very secure person you don’t need to have your way all the time. You don’t. It doesn’t bother you. You don’t have to have your way all the time because you’re secure.
But if you’re insecure then you really have to have your way all the time. And you fight for your way and you push for your way and you control your way. The more out of control you feel, the more controlling you become.
This happens in verse 16 where God says to Eve “You’ll have yearnings for your husband [in other words you’re going to love your husband even though you both messed up] but he will lord it over you.” The Berkeley version says “he will dominate you.”
C) This is where the war of the sexes began. Right there. All the misunderstanding between men and women and husbands and wives, boyfriends and girlfriends. All the confusion, all the conflict, all the jockeying for power and position, all the tit for tat, all of the this for that. All the bargaining and who’s going to be in control of this and who’s going to run this… that all goes back to this situation here. Sin.
It’s not a whole lot of fun to be in that kind of a relationship. Where you’re not cooperating but you’re competing with each other. Would you like to move from competition to cooperation in your marriage? Where you’re not fighting each other but you’re fighting together against other things? You’re on the same team. How do you do that?
D) What is the antidote that transforms a relationship that relieves these three fears? The fear of exposure and the fear of disapproval and the fear of losing control that causes me to be distant and defensive and demanding in relationships?
There’s only one ANTIDOTE to the fears. It is love.
Learn to live in God’s love. That is the antidote. I must learn to live in God’s love.
1 John 4:18. The first half of the verse says this:
“Wherever God's love is, there is no fear.” Circle that – no fear. So you want to get rid of fear in a relationship? You’ve got to get God’s love there. You want to get rid of fear in your career? Get God’s love there. You want to get fear out of your education or your sports or whatever? You’ve got to get God’s love there. Wherever God’s love is there is no fear. Why? “…Because God's perfect love drives out all fear.”
The opposite of fear is not faith. The opposite of fear is love. When you invite God’s love into the front door of your heart – When you ask God’s love into your heart through the front door, fear goes out the backdoor. Because fear and love can’t live in the same house.
When you let fear in the front door of your house, love goes out the back door. Whenever you are afraid you are not being loving. Because perfect love casts out all fear.
Why is it that people will stand watching a fire burning a building down and everybody’s afraid to go in? But somebody runs in – it’s the mother going in to get the baby. Why? Because fear is overcome by love. And the love is greater than the fear.
LEARN TO LIVE IN GOD’S LOVE
So learn to live in God’s love. This is the result of fear the second part of that verse – 1 John 4:18b “It is the thought of punishment that makes a person fearful.”
What is the thought of punishment? It’s thinking about the negative consequences. How many times have you been afraid to tell the truth because of the consequences? How many times have you been afraid to be yourself because of the consequences? How many times have you gone to a party or gone on a date and you didn’t want to say what you really believed because of the fear of the consequences – the punishment you’d receive.
How many times have you had a friend and you knew something was wrong in their life and you tell them almost all of the truth but you save back the last ten percent which will make the difference? You hold back so many times, we hold back the last ten percent from somebody because we’re afraid we’re going to hurt their feelings and then they’re going to reject us. You’re really doing it out of fear. We don’t want to share the last ten percent.
It is the thought of punishment or negative consequences that makes a person fearful.
So how do I learn to live in God’s love? You do three things. If you’ll do these three things, it will transform your relationships. These things will transform. Three daily choices.
Every day I surrender, every day I remember and every day I offer. If I do these three things and if you will do these three things you will transform your relationships. You may have been married forty years; it will till transform your relationship.
HOW DO I LEARN TO LIVE IN GOD’S LOVE?
1. EVERY DAY SURRENDER MY HEART TO GOD.
So what you do is, every morning when you wake up you sit on the side of your bed and you say, “God before I even start this day I surrender the center of my emotions to you. God, I want you to be Lord of my feelings, Lord of my emotions. I want you to control my mind and my emotions. My mind and my heart. I surrender it to you. I want you to fill me with your love.
Why? Because God is love. God is love! The closer you get to God the more love will fill your heart. The further away you get from God the more fear will fill your heart. So if you want to get rid of your fears you’ve got to get close to God. If you get away from God fear, anxiety, worry, insecurity – those are going to soar in your life. Because perfect love casts out all fear. So if I get close to God it casts out the worry, the insecurity, the anxiety, the fears and all of those things.
A) Job 11:13-18 is a verse you might even want to memorize. It’s a long verse but it’s a great verse. It says this: “Surrender your heart to God, turn to him in prayer, and give up your sins— even those you do in secret. [You can do that the first thing in the morning. You sit on the side of your bed – surrender your heart to God, turn to him in prayer and give up your sins even those you do in secret] Then [notice the benefits] you won't be ashamed; [shame will be banished from your life. You won’t be ashamed…] you will be confident and fearless. Your troubles will go away like water beneath a bridge, and your darkest night will be brighter than noon. Then you’ll rest safe and secure, filled with hope and emptied of worry!”
Hello! Does anybody want that? I could have done the whole message on that one. We could read that verse and go home.
There are three commands and eight promises in that verse. God says you do this and I’ll do this. Every promise has a premise.
Surrender your heart to God. God, I give you my emotions, I give you my heart. I do it every day. Turn to him in prayer. You talk to him in prayer. And you give up your sins.
That’s confession. You say, God that was wrong. That attitude was wrong. I shouldn’t have done that. You get a clean heart.
B) Then he says. Notice the eight benefits. No shame, you’ll be confident, you’ll be fearless, your troubles will be like water under the bridge, the dark night you’re going through is going to be brighter than noon, you’ll be able to sleep well, you’re going to be able to rest safe and secure - you’ll sleep well; you’re going be filled with hope and you’re going to be emptied of worry.
Wow! You ought to take that verse and write it on a little three by five card this week and put it on your vanity or put it on your car visor or put it where you will see it and you read it over and over and over. Do those three things and expect those eight benefits.
The first thing I do to live in God’s love is every day surrender my heart to God. And look at the benefits.
2. EVERY DAY I REMEMBER.
Every day I remember the way God loves me.
You have to pause every day and remember the way that God loves you. Because if you don’t feel loved by God you’re certainly not going to offer love to anybody else. If you don’t feel loved you’re not going to be loving. It is impossible to be loving and not feel loved.
So I have to remind myself every day what God thinks about me. Not what the world thinks, not even what I think about me. But what does God think about me? This is what removes my fears.
Let me just give you four of the things God thinks about you.
• I’m completely accepted.
That’s important because the deepest wounds of your life are those caused by rejection.
So we spend much of our lives trying to earn the acceptance and avoid rejection from our parents and from our peers and from those we respect and from those we envy. And even total strangers. We want their respect. We want to be accepted. We don’t want to be rejected.
There is a myth that says, If I could just be perfect then everybody would like me. I hate to tell you this: Jesus was perfect and a lot of people didn’t like him. No matter who you are or what you do somebody’s not going to like it.
Here’s the good news: You don’t need everybody’s approval to be happy. The bad news is you’re not going to get it anyway! The good news is though they’re always worried about their approval rating. Do I have enough friends on Facebook?
The point here is you need to realize this issue of acceptance has already been settled by
God. The Bible says in Titus 3:7 “Jesus made us acceptable to God.” Jesus – what he did on the cross – made us acceptable to God. If God likes me and I like me, if you don’t like me, what’s your problem? I’m acceptable. I am completely accepted.
• I’m unconditionally loved.
That’s what God thinks about you. He loves you unconditionally. There are a lot of things I can say about God’s love but two of the characteristics of God’s love are it’s consistent and it’s unconditional.
In other words, it’s consistent. God is not fickle. God is not unpredictable. God doesn’t say I’m going to love you today but tomorrow I’ve got a bad hair day.
I had a kid tell me one time growing up I never knew if my dad was going to hug me or slug me. Inconsistent parents produce insecure kids. That may be where some of your insecurity came from. But God’s love is consistent. It’s not fickle.
And not only that; it’s unconditional. God doesn’t say I love you if. He doesn’t say I love you because. He says I love you, period! I love you in spite of the fact. You can’t make God stop loving you. God will never love you move than this very second and God will never love you any less than this second. No one will every love you more than God does. You never need to ask, Will God love me today? You never need to ask that. Did I pray enough today?
God’s love is not based on what you do but on who he is. We always get into trouble when we doubt God’s love. When we doubt God’s love we get fearful.
Isaiah 54:10 says “My love for you will never end says the Lord.” I am completely accepted and I’m unconditionally loved.
The third thing God says about you,
• I’m totally forgiven.
So why am I carrying shame? Why am I holding onto shame? I’m totally forgiven. Do you realize that before God even made you he already knew the worst things you’d ever do and he still chose to love you? He knows the things you’re going to do that you don’t even know you’re going to do. He already knows them. And he still has chosen to love you.
Because of what Jesus did for you, dying for your sins on the cross, I am totally forgiven.
Romans 8:1 “There is NO condemnation for those in Christ Jesus!” Sins are wiped out. God doesn’t rehearse it; he releases it.
Then number four, what does God think of you?
• I’m considered extremely valuable.
I’m considered extremely valuable by God.
Let me ask you a very personal question: How much do you think you’re worth? I’m not talking about your net worth – I’m talking about your self-worth. I’m not talking about your valuables. I’m talking about your own personal value. How much do you think you as a person are worth?
You go, I’m not sure about that. Let me ask you another question: What is it that makes something valuable?
There are two things that create value. Who owns it? The value depends on who owns it.
And the second is, What somebody’s willing to pay for it. That’s what determines the value. Who owns it and what somebody’s willing to pay for it.
In other words, value depends on who owns something. Would you agree that at an auction, a toothbrush owned by John Lennon would be more valuable than a toothbrush owned by Rick Warren? Yeah. A bed owned by a president would be more valuable than bed that you own. Who owns something often creates its value. The owner adds value to common things.
Who do you belong to? Who owns you? God does. You’re a child of God. You’re a son of God. You’re a daughter of God. Just like an oil sheik would pay any price for that ransomed girl – she’s a daughter of the king. Here’s what the Bible says about you.
“You’ve been bought [with a price] and paid for by Christ’s death.”
Value depends on what somebody’s willing to pay for it. How much is your house worth? Not as much as you think it is. Your house is worth what anybody is willing to pay for it. If nobody’s willing to pay your price, it isn’t worth that. Sorry! Hate to tell you that. But it’s only as valuable as what somebody’s willing to pay for it.
Jesus Christ paid for you with his life. That’s how valuable you are.
So how do I remember every day the way God loves me? I get up in the morning and say, “God I just want to remind myself how much you love me. I’m completely accepted. And I’m unconditionally loved. And I’m totally forgiven. And I’m considered extremely valuable and capable.” You remind yourself of those things. That’s a key to relationships.
Here’s a third thing. I surrender, I remember then
3. EVERY DAY I OFFER.
I offer that same love to others. The same love that God gives to me the Bible says I am to offer to everybody else that I come in contact with. Every day I offer that same love to others.
Here’s what the Bible says:
John 13:34 Jesus said this “I’m giving you a new commandment to love each other. Love each other in the same way that I have loved you.”
That’s not an option. That’s not a suggestion. If you’re a follower of Christ you must love everybody. Whether you like them or not. In the same way that Christ loved you. That is you are to accept them completely, you’re to love them unconditionally, you’re to forgive them totally. And you are to consider them extremely valuable. Jesus said you are to love everybody else in the same way that I love you.
Will that transform your relationships? Yes it would.
The Bible says in Romans 15:7 “Accept one another just as Christ accepted you.” Circle the phrase “just as”. Accept one another just as Christ accepted you. In other words in the same way. Just like Christ accepted you.
What does that mean? It means this: I must accept everybody else the way Jesus accepts me. I must love everybody else the way Jesus loves me. I must forgive everybody else the way Jesus forgives me. I must value everybody else the way Jesus values me.
The Bible says in 1 Corinthians 13:7 “Love never stops being patient, Love never stops believing, Love never stops hoping, Love never gives up!” Circle the four nevers. This is what real love is. This is how God loves you. God never stops being patient with you. God never stops believing in you. God never stops hoping for the best in your life. God never gives up on you. That’s what God expects you to do with everybody else.
Let me explain that verse. “Love never stops being patient.” That means love extends grace. You offer grace to people. Love never stops being patient. It extends grace.
“Love never stops believing.” That means it expresses faith. It never stops. I believe in you. I know we’ve had this tough time. I know we’ve had this failure. I know we’ve had this sin, this falling out; but I never stop believing in you. Love extends grace and expresses faith.
Three, love expects the best. It never stops hoping. Are you expecting the best in your marriage or have you settled for less than the best? Love extends grace, expresses faith, expects the best, it never stops hoping.
And love endures the worst. It never gives up. You can throw everything at me but I’m going to keep loving you. Love endures the worst.
You needed this message today and God has spoken to you and you know it. If you want to transform your relationships, then I’m going to invite you to pray right now.
All Because Of Jesus
- Steve Fee
Giver of ev'ry breath I breathe
Author of all eternity
Giver of ev'ry perfect thing
To You be the glory
Maker of heaven and of earth
No one can comprehend Your worth
King over all the universe
To You be the glory
Misc 1 (Pre-Chorus)
And I'm alive because I'm alive in You
(And) it's all because of Jesus I'm alive
It's all because the blood of Jesus Christ
That covers me and raised this dead man's life
It's all because of Jesus
(I'm alive I'm alive I'm alive)
Misc 2 (Bridge)
Ev'ry sunrise sings Your praise
The universe cries out Your praise
I'm singing freedom all my days
Now that I'm alive
- William Batchelder Bradbury, Eric Liljero, Reuben Morgan
My hope is built on nothing less
Than Jesus' blood and righteousness
I dare not trust the sweetest frame
But wholly trust in Jesus' Name
Christ alone cornerstone
Weak made strong in the Saviour's love
Through the storm He is Lord
Lord of all
When darkness seems to hide His face
I rest on His unchanging grace
In every high and stormy gale
My anchor holds within the veil
My anchor holds within the veil
Misc 1 (Interlude)
He is Lord Lord of all
When He shall come with trumpet sound
Oh may I then in Him be found
Dressed in His righteousness alone
Faultless stand before the throne
I Won't Go Back
- William McDowell
I've been changed
Healed freed delivered
I've found joy peace grace and favor
Misc 1 (Pre-Chorus)
Right now is the moment
Today is the day
I've been changed
I've been changed
I have waited for this moment to come
And I won't let it pass me by
I won't go back
I can't go back to the way it used to be
Before Your presence came and changed me
All my shame guilt sins forgiven
No more chains fear
(My) past is over